Winding Roads

This is my one hundredth post.  It’s a small accomplishment but I want to savor it since it is a pretty great personal mile stone.  I had a one point thought myself a writer, but then lost track of that dream for a time.  I got back to writing again in this blog as a way to “air out some things that are brewing in my brain.”  Since the time that I wrote my first post life has been a series of winding roads.  I have seen my dreams realized and sometimes discarded.  God provided in amazing ways.  What surprised me over and over again was the way that God gave me the desires of my heart.  Things that I never even prayed for, but every time I got what I desired I wasn’t really satisfied by those things.  

The desires of my heart were never really for the really important things in my life such as my wife and kids.  I love them so much.  They drive me crazy sometimes.  Seasons of my life with them have been tough (like right now).  I have had to eat crow many times, and I will never get used to having to admit that I was wrong.  God knows all these things about me.

If there is one thing that I wish could be said about me from the first post of this blog till now it is, “He followed God’s plan for his life.”  I am often trying to run my life on my own terms.  Men tend to do that. We don’t even have to think about it.  I get so caught up in the day to day running of my life that I often miss the callings of God.  The little voice during times of trouble or times of ease telling me to let God take command.  I can think of a thousand times when I nearly drove myself into a panic trying to run my life.  I tried to solve my own problems and get out of my own troubles.  


Right now, God is got me in season of life to teach me to let him run my life.  I don’t know if I have a choice this time.  God seems very serious about closing off my life from me.  With car wrecks, mental health issues, and other challenges, God is going to get through to me.  I need to learn what HE’s teaching me.  

My wife is calling me to her side so that’s about all I have to say about that.  I hope to have another one hundred posts to celebrate sooner rather than later.  Please comment and then subscribe.

10 Things for 10 years of marriage

I had my ten year wedding anniversary at end of May. My wife and I sat down to write down ten things that we have learned in ten years of marriage. I didn't really get to thinking about how much an accomplishment ten years of marriage were. Until, I started thinking about some of my childhood friends. One friend has gotten two separate women pregnant without marrying either, another friend has been divorced at least twice, and the rest are working on at least their second marriages or recently single. So, maybe ten years is the exception not the rule anymore. Here is the list that we came up with:

How to Survive the First Ten Years

1. Honesty is the best quality- be honest about everything.
2. Shared hobbies are good, but separate hobbies are even better.
3. Don't move furniture together. Get your friends to help or hire someone you
don't want the headache.
4. If you want something done your way do it yourself.
5. Try to avoid interruptions to your lovemaking.
6. Make time for each other everyday. Just saying, "I love you" can be enough.
7. Spur each other on to greatness without nagging.
8. Expect that you will each change over time.
9. Dream together about life after kids.

10. BEWARE THE 7 YEAR ITCH.

If you have some more rules that got your marriage through ten years or more (even better). Please leave them as a comment, email, or Facebook comment.